FAMILY RESOURCES

That’s a great question. The aging process includes a natural slowing down, and having known your parent or loved one over a period of years you may see that certain day-to-day functions – such as bathing, dressing, grooming, eating, and remembering to take medications – have become a challenge. You may find yourself questioning how viable it is for that person to live on his or her own, and you have a natural concern for their safety and well-being.

If you’re comfortable, it can be very enlightening to have a frank but loving conversation with your parent about their feelings and concerns with aging. (It’s quite possible that they’ve been considering how to start a conversation with you about their potential move.)

Many people will begin the process of seeking an appropriate retirement community – touring various communities and talking with staff on behalf of their aging loved one – to discover the options and opportunities available. Then, being prepared in this way, drawing draw their parent into the conversation.

Some degree of memory loss is normal with aging. It goes with the territory. To be considered dementia, symptoms need to affect more than one area of brain function significantly enough to interfere with everyday life. Memory loss is a common example, as you’ve noticed – your loved one may have difficulties forming new memories. Communication is another key area. Your father may experience challenges in processing speech and language- finding the right words. Changes in mood are common: such as depression, apathy, or a change in personality. He may be confused, or be challenged in his sense of direction and spatial orientation. He may experience a decline in judgment – his ability to consider facts and come to a reasonable conclusion.

You may be in a good position to observe and monitor subtle changes such as these in your loved one. It’s also a good idea to talk with your father’s doctor and share your concerns.

Progressive dementia is the most common type, with five progressive stages:

• With stage one, there is no impairment. There is no significant memory problem, judgment is normal, and your loved one is fully able to care for their personal needs.
• Stage two is characterized by slight impairments, such as memory inconsistencies and struggles with timing or solving problems. They can still manage personal care without any help.
• Stage three is a noticeable but mild impairment in areas such as short-term memory, disorientation and getting around. Chores may begin to be neglected. Reminders are needed for such things as personal hygiene.
• A person with stage four has a moderate impairment. Though well enough to go out, they need to be accompanied for social activities and chores.
• Stage five is severe impairment – the inability to function without help. Stage 5 is characterized by extreme memory loss, confusion and lack of orientation. At this stage, everyday functions are almost impossible, even with assistance.

Yes. Please feel free to think of us at Oakmont at Gordon Park as a resource. Give us a call. We will likely have excellent guidance, or have a pretty good idea on where to direct you to get your questions answered. In the meantime, the Helpful Links section includes a number of the leading online organizations and resources. We hope that helps!